Mention "self-centered," It is natural to it and "selfish", "hegemony", "caring only for themselves regardless of others" and other derogatory words together. In fact, all human behavior, first originated from the most selfish nature, based on a basic "self." Everyone has "self", everyone has the "self", everyone must also exercise restraint "self" and must go beyond "self." Anything contradictory duality, there are both independent and mutually transforming, self and not me, selfish and Broad ... ... distinguish the inherent connection and transformation of internal and small can be self-cultivation, is applicable to various management major.
"Self" in three levels, from the most fundamental of "self" to "by me and others" and to "no" response to the three realms of human relations.
The lowest level of a state is: "I" as the center. We see young children, they pass information to parents with crying: I was thirsty, I'm hungry, I want to nurse ... ... all around are "I want to," "I want", the status of their parents, the proportion of heart 100%, a little life of people around the rotation. Infants and young children are full of such acts of "self" as the center, people first, most basic of a congenital nature.
When the child grew up to be sent to nurseries, kindergartens, participated in the original "collective life", they have dropped from 100% to 50%, 40%, 30% ... ..., with increasing age, into the schools take the social, hundreds of millions of million people in the blues, the personal "self" will become more and more percentage of zero, insignificant as to be almost negligible. However, many people do not recognize this "self" changes in the proportion of still want to retain the "self-centered" to "I want to," "I" as the attitude of life approach. These "self-centered," the children to the community and beyond, with groups of colleagues to the existence of significant barriers, in the home of 100% compared with the insignificance of the community, a huge drop after their entry into the community often irreconcilable with the social contradictions occur. Now many companies recruit fresh college students, very afraid of using these "self-centered," the students, for these students, priority is "to me", to help them analyze the "self" of the harm, to help them analyze the enterprise in is a consumer-centered, community-centered, team-centered, it is "self" to survive an objective law.
The second level: in order to "self" and the first for others. Modern society, teamwork teamwork, the goal has been to achieve individual and groups closely linked to "self" goals, you must first meet people, help others, get support and trust of others through the "Quxianjiuguo" to realize "self" purposes. To serve the country run entities such as industry, need to protect consumer interests, but also must ensure that companies, employees, shareholders, sale of business, collaboration, and national interests of the business interests of staff, this is the completion of the "self" and "others" of a kind of exchange - in order to "own" the center must be people-centered, for their own must be for others, in order to "self" and individual, I must follow this law.
I want to live I want to develop, must be "self" into "team", this actually is from the "self" point of view to consider. The "others centered" and "self-centered" in the middle of what is the difference? No! From the perspective of survival are better to live his life some, the goal is to self-realization. Why do some people do like a duck, why some people would be counter-productive? Because it followed the natural law of reason, luck is a blessing only to those who follow the law, this is the second state, is completely "self-centered," the state and provide long to the "first to me and for others" level.
The highest level of state: for all, all for one. When a person always cherish their own dreams for the sake of others, his dreams will be more and more intense subjective desire, his desire to become infected more and more people, naturally he would "self" desire to become someone else's dream, more and more people to this personal "dream self" in the past, he will integrate more and more social resources, prompted him to have more conditions to achieve "self" .
His realization of "self" and they will increasingly return to nature, in line with the laws of nature, and unity around the world. "Self" dream the dream of eventually evolved into the community, and society, the human tide line. The society will reward according to his contribution to his honor and interests, he would naturally become the elite, wealthy elite. These elites who are charged with more and more social responsibility and human missions, the public mind the benefit of mankind as a whole, as more and more of Bill Gates who, this is "self" in the third realm.